Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Opposites attract, or is that attack?

I have a question for you dear readers.

Are there some of you out there that have spouses, partners, significant others, that just do not get into Hallowe'en?   Maybe there are some of you out there that have loved ones that openly disapprove of your fascination for the dark and spooky.  How do you deal with this?  Hallowe'en to me personally is a lot more fun than Christmas.  Don't get me wrong, I love Christmas.  No, strike that.  I don't like Christmas.  I hate the commercialism, the stress, the demands and the expectations.  I adore what Christmas is all about but what it has turned into gripes me.  I love Hallowe'en because it's a holiday that demands nothing of you rather than to have a good time, unless you're a haunter and then the demands multiply by a factor of 1000.

Just curious if I'm the only one out there.

10 comments:

The Frog Queen said...

It took me years, but I won husband over...he loves Halloween as much as I do now. Just had to have him make some thing techincal and I had it made :) Before that, lots of naging and complaining..... :)

Wendy the (Very) Good Witch said...

Ha ha....that title is funny! Based on what you wrote, you and I could be twins separated at birth. Those are my sentiments EXACTLY on both Halloween and Christmas. I used to love Christmas many years ago...then it became all the things you stated, and I couldn't find it anymore...like in that Faith Hill song...Where are you Christmas.

In our house, my enthusiasm for Halloween grew on my husband over the years. Plus...he's really laid back and easy going with not many hard strong opinions...at least in the area of holidays, decore, art, clothes etc. So that allows me to make all those decisions and he just goes with the flow. Now he likes it almost as much as me.....well....he could NEVER like it THAT much, but he's on board for whatever I want to do, so it works. I truly don't know what I'd do if he had a strong opinion against it though. For me, shopping for Halloween stuff is my birthday and Christmas all rolled into one. But I guess I'd just have to learn to compromise...but boy that would be hard...ha!

My outer family isn't as keen on it though, they don't quite get me or understand my love for Halloween. And that's okay because that's why I write this blog and have a MySpace page, so that I can find a support group of like minded folks who truly do understand the love of Fall and Halloween. I guess I'd say...when Mrs. M makes you put away the goods for another year, come read Halloween blogs to get your fix that way and keep the peace! :o)

PS...and perhaps try to concentrate more on what attracts instead of what makes you want to attack...ha! (What we put our minds to, expands!) (still laughing)

Auburn haired artist said...

I feel exactly the same way about Halloween and Christmas.

My husband isn't nearly as into Halloween as I am, but it's something that we can enjoy doing together, and it's sort of a family tradition.

The only time that I feel a bit akward about my "dark side" is at Church. (I'm a Christian) I know that not everyone at a my church would approve of my haunt, although most of them would probably just roll their eyes and laugh. When my kids were younger, I put in countless hours doing creative work for the church's "Halloween alternative" parties. At the time, my kids enjoyed it, and I didn't mind doing the work. Now that my kids have outgrown their parties,(they're teenagers now) we still celebrate Halloween as a family, doing what we teenagers are good at - having fun!

I've had a few people try to preach to me about the "evil origins" of Halloween, but at 47 years old, I don't really feel that I have to answer to anyone except God. (God and I have discussed it, and He and I are cool with the whole thing.)
Halloween is about thrills, and chills, and FUN! Anyone who tries to make it into something more than that, are probably bigger freaks, with bigger issues, than I have.

Diane said...

"Are there some of you out there that have spouses, partners, significant others, that just do not get into Hallowe'en?"

Not anymore....
BWAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Stephanie D. said...

So how come it's only the GALS who are answering this question? Hmm?

Hubby was into Halloween somewhat early in our relationship, but a stroke at age 32 left him paralyzed on the left side and a back injury has left him with chronic pain 24/7. I truly think he would be involved and way more supportive if he could participate, but I'm thinking it's just a reminder of one more thing he can't do.

Then again, it may just be the slung-together meals, trying to dig through baskets for clean laundry, and being subjected to hours upon hours of grade B semi-scary movies.

Nah, that wouldn't be it....

ShellHawk said...

Mr. ShellHawk is supportive and tolerant, and brags on me at Halloween, but is currently in the camp of "It's not my thing." He only gets concerned about the money I spend (amazing how many Home Depot receipts get "lost" before he sees them), which is valid because I've been out of work for a year, now. He will help in the Garage of Doom from time to time, if it's a small project like wiring small LEDs to a battery pack. Otherwise, I'm on my own. WOuldn't trade him for anything!

Elphaba and Fred said...

The Pumpkin King in our house, well I'm still easing him in. He knows I want him to be more involved, but this is only year two. He's proud when I make something cool, and supportive when it all falls apart. And he's good at getting wood from the lumber store. Someday, he'll be totally converted (probably when our girl is older and she isn't treating, but haunting with us!)

PumpkinBrain said...

My wife does love Halloween but not in the exact same way as I am. She is supportive of my work as a haunter but sometimes thinks I am taking this a little bit to seriously. She gives me idea for what I could add to our haunt but, for the moment, I can't count on her help to do the prop building. I'm still trying to get her more involved. I guess I will be able to in a couple of years when my children will be old enough to help me :-)

CB said...

The wife is very supportive but really won't help do much. I am working on her. My two year old daughter already loves Halloween. I am hoping that she helps get mom more involved.

Wings said...

My wife loves it, but not to the extent I do. She supports my love of it, and horror in general, and for that I am grateful. :)